I Met a Great Guy!

I just met a great guy! He is perfect for me! He is a Christian, athletic, smart, handsome, and I feel so excited about him. I never feel this way! It is like being a school girl again! He told me that he is married. He said,” they have been separated for two years and will be getting a divorce in two more years.” He said,” she is a non-believer and emotionally abusive to him”. I don’t date married men but he feels like he should be my exception. What should I do?

Stay with what you know to be true. You don’t date married men. In today’s culture, it seems acceptable to do so. The ramifications for adultery have not changed. You can be forgiven but if you go into a relationship knowing it is wrong and “go for it” anyway planning on His forgiveness it will backfire on you. God designed marriage to help us. He said, “It is not good that man shall be alone.” (Genesis 2:18)

Genesis 2:24: “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”

Mark 10:9: “Therefore what God has joined together let no man separate.”

Mathew5:32 “But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery: and who ever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.”

1 Corinthians 6:9 “Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards nor revilers nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you. But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God.

1 Corinthians 6:19 “Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own?”(sharing your flesh in adultery violates your body)

Even though God deigned marriage to help us it is not easy. Many of us wish we would have picked different people once we open our package. The truth is there is not a perfect person out there. I have watched my sisters and my good friends stay married in very hard times and their life is better for it. I have left my marriages for adulterous relationships and there was nothing but pain. There was initial who –Ha! , then significant pain. I know I have been forgiven but my family has suffered tremendously and so have I. I recommend you suggest this person find a way through Jesus to fix his marriage. Pray that his marriage will be saved, and walk away. God will reward your behavior in His timing He will bring you the Man He has for you. Marriage is a gift from God; don’t let yourself be a part of destroying it.